Dear EFAP: Dissing the doggie

Thank you to those who have written to “dear efap” for input on your dilemmas. As you are aware, we read every inquiry that comes in but we are only able to print a small selection of responses.  Our “pithy” answers are modeled after the lighter hearted Dear Abby style and are grounded in common sense.  If your issues require a more personalized level of support please call EFAP (1-800-505-4929) and we can confidentially book you a counselling appointment with a senior level therapist.

We welcome all inquiries – please submit these to dear.efap@efap.ca. All printed responses use the anonymous descriptor that you sign your inquiry with and do not reveal any identifying information. Our goal is to support you through insight and common sense.

Below is our response to the next selection – enjoy!

Nothing is ever good enough for my girlfriend. My house is not big enough, my salary is not large enough, I don’t show enough affection, I don’t clean up after myself, I don’t … the list goes on. Lately, she’s been complaining about my dog – she says he smells and needs too much attention, and she’s now threatening that either he goes or she will. What should I do?

• Dissing my Dog

Dear Dissing my Dog,

Well, my friend, I’m just going to answer by asking you two questions: Who gives you unconditional love? And who is man’s best friend?

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