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On New Year’s Day my new roommate threw up all over everything and then didn’t clean-up after herself. She just moved in about 6 weeks ago, and I needed to find someone to share with because I overspent last year. I’ve been able to get my spending under control, but I haven’t been able to get my roommate under control and I’m starting to regret the decision. It’s only been just over a month but I’m going nuts!  She eats at all hours and leaves crumbs everywhere, she listens to loud music that I hate, she doesn’t clean the bathroom, she orders in food all the time and fills the garbage with empty take-out styrofoam containers and then never takes the garbage out, she plays on her phone incessantly, the list goes on.  I’m the one with the lease and I like my place, but I can’t handle this! What should I do?

• Regretting my Roommate

Dear Regretting my Roommate,

It’s clearly not a fit – my vote is to politely, but firmly, ask them to move out.

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