Dear EFAP: desiring forbidden fruit

Thank you to those who have written to “Dear EFAP” for input on your dilemmas. As you are aware, we read every inquiry that comes in but we are only able to print a small selection of responses.  Our “pithy” answers are modeled after the lighter hearted Dear Abby style and are grounded in common sense.  If your issues require a more personalized level of support please call Employee Wellness/EFAP (1-800-505-4929) and we can confidentially book you a counselling appointment with a senior level therapist.

We welcome all inquiries – please submit these to dear.efap@efap.ca. All printed responses use the anonymous descriptor that you sign your inquiry with and do not reveal any identifying information.  Our goal is to support you through insight and common sense.

Below is our response to the next selection – enjoy!

Dear EFAP

I’m falling for my best friend’s hubby who I work with. I can’t stop thinking about him and when we do shifts together, I find myself flirting with him. I know he’s forbidden fruit but I can’t help myself. What should I do?
-Falling for forbidden fruit

Dear Falling for forbidden fruit

Yes, think Garden-of-Eden-forbidden fruit. It’s not a good idea to act on these feelings, my friend, as you are truly playing with fire.  This could get real messy real fast. What do I suggest? Resist the temptation and flirtations and strongly consider a transfer. 🙂

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