Dear EFAP: Fretting about France
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Dear EFAP,
I feel so cramped. My office cubicle is beyond small and I swear that my apartment is the smallest studio apartment in Vancouver. I feel like I cannot breathe – I need to do something drastic. I love my job but I am young and want to see the world. My boss really likes me and has even suggested that if I did leave I could come back – now that’s cool! I have been given this really amazing opportunity in France and I am dying to go there. It could really help my career: imagine boating down the Seine, strolling the Champs-Élysées, nibbling on croissant at the foot of the Eiffel tower. It all sounds so romantic – doesn’t it? I am scared though. It’s a long way away and I would miss my friends and family. I don’t really know the culture and I’m not that familiar with the currency, but it would only be for a year. I’m feeling torn, what should I do?
– Fretting About France
Dear Fretting About France,
Bon Voyage!
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Anonymous
What a great opportunity! From dissatisfied to adventure, a chance to enrich your life.
It will have challenges, but that is what stimulates real growth. How is your french?
Best of luck!
Anonymous
Don’t fret!!!
What an amazing opportunity. You will love Paris and France. I can’t wait to go back. there is so much culture, history, culinary delights there you will probably not want to come home. I bet your friends and family may want to take the opportunity for you to come visit while you are there. You could also learn a little french while there. go for it!!!
Anonymous
I know 3 people who lived in Paris for a year or two, all of whom had good jobs while there. They universally loved their experiences but all had the same challenge- it is very difficult to make friends there. They all got to know and love the city but all were lonely, inspite of having co-worers.They all spoke French fluently. Two of these friends have lived in multiple cities over their careers and found Paris socially the hardest You will not regret going but do prepare yourself for the social challenges. If you don’t like to be alone and are not going with a group, it is good to come up with a plan in advance for how you will meet people. There is a Beaver Club through the Canadian embassy, for example. Do you have a hobby that is social- find out in advance if there is an associated club.
Anonymous
I say go for it, after all, if you hate it (unlikley) its only a plane ride home. Best to give it go than spend time regretting never taking the chances that are offered. France is wonderful and Paris is somewhere all should try and visit at least one, the chance to live there for asyear is amazing.
Go enjoy yourself.