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I just know it, my 6 year old is going to ask me if Santa Claus is real this year – help! What do I do?
– In Need of Some Ho Ho Help

Dear In Need of Some Ho Ho Help,

Well, I’m afraid I might be the wrong person to ask as I’m rather partial to the old fellow. Perhaps try posing questions to your child that are steeped in possibility rather than making a declarative statement. Ask your child what they think about all the good that floods into people’s hearts over the holidays, and all the “Merry Christmas” salutations they see and hear, and the donations of food, goods, and presents to those in need. What do they think about seeing that face light up when a loved one open up that one special gift? When we focus on behaviour that is potentially fuelled by Santa it suggests that indeed he might well exist, but maybe not in the traditional way. Does he live in the North Pole with his wife, elves, and reindeer? I’m not sure, but I do know that the feeling that comes over me every season lets me know he is “here.”

So, do I believe in Santa Claus? You bet I do, and if you want to really bring some holiday cheer to this age old question consider focusing on the behaviour that he influences in all of us. These are just my suggestions on what you could do, but something (or someone) seems to be telling me that you will know just the right thing to say when the time comes. Merry Christmas!

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