Dear EFAP: Drinking Diva

Thank you to those who have written to “dear efap” for input on your dilemmas. As you are aware, we read every inquiry that comes in but we are only able to print a small selection of responses.  Our “pithy” answers are modeled after the lighter hearted Dear Abby style and are grounded in common sense.  If your issues require a more personalized level of support please call EFAP (1-800-505-4929) and we can confidentially book you a counselling appointment with a senior level therapist.


We welcome all inquiries – please submit these to All printed responses use the anonymous descriptor that you sign your inquiry with and do not reveal any identifying information.  Our goal is to support you through insight and common sense.


Below is our response to the next selection – enjoy!


This summer was like one big beach party – I drank all sorts of fruity, overpriced cocktails on trendy patios during happy hour and, truth be told, often at home as well before leaving for cocktail hour (it kept starting earlier and earlier in the day).  Now I am back into work mode (ugh), I don’t love my job but it pays the bills and affords me the ability to do the same next summer.  I’m realizing, though, that I’m still turning to the cocktails, but without the beach or a patio. I’m worried that I may have a problem, what should I do?

  • Drinking Diva

Dear Drinking Diva

Good job that you’ve noticed that drinking seems to be running you a bit more than you are running it, it sounds like you could use a bit of support to work this out. It’s fine to want a drink, that’s different from needing a drink and needing one regularly and at an elevated volume.  These are warning signs, and it takes courage to be honest about this stuff.  You, my friend, have courage as you are looking at this head on. What should you do? Consider calling EFAP and talking this out with a trusted, confidential counsellor – you do not have to stand up to this on your own.  If EFAP is not for you, Alcoholics Anonymous has a line you can call for support as well.  Many deal with this issue, but few are honest. You’re on the right track by questioning your actions and to reaching out, just make a call and know that you are not alone.

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The advice offered in this column is meant to be used as general guidance based on the facts provided. The opinions or views expressed should not be relied on as treatment or counselling services. If you are a VCH staff member and find yourself in need of counselling or support, please contact EFAP toll free at 1-800-505-4929 or 604-872-4929, your family doctor, or another appropriately trained and qualified specialist.


  1. Amy says:

    Suggest challenging yourself to go a 100 days without alcohol to give yourself a break and see what life is like without it! Some good websites for support are and/or Mrs. D is going What you describe seems more like bad habit drinking that catches up to a person. Stop it in its tracks!

  2. Lynda Lougheed says:

    Good to think about this before it becomes a problem. I have family with addiction issues…AA is not for everyone, there are lots of ways to look at this and lots of ways to handle whatever may be going on. Prevention is a key, and looking at this while you can make good choices is so crucial…

    My suggestion is be mindful, make good choices, ask yourself what the drinking is about, is it a way to cope from a stressful day, are the better ways to deal with the stressors?

    You have insight and that will take you a long while. Many, sadly do not, good for you!

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